So being a very socially inexperienced person, (I don’t have a lot of friends and have never been in a relationship) and being a virgin I never found the right channels to surf to find those sex/kink community’s. For some reason I through things like sex and BDSM clubs were so secluded and hidden from the public eye. I was amazed when I found this brands Instagram and found out I could buy vibes and dildos from stores in the mall!
So if any of you have some fun stories or know how to find these communities, please tell me! I guarantee, hearing about the first time you wore a collar or did some new light kink stuff will sound like Greek myths to me!
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My intro to kink was actually my first bf. Things I didn’t like back in high school (class of 2012) were relatively kinky.
I spat in his mouth and I didn’t like it then, but I like degrading ppl now.
We did BDSM. Spanking, choking, crazy positions, and when we couldn’t physically be together, we would Skype!
I have put a banana, cucumber, and curling iron with condoms on when we had Skype sex. It helped that I was still able bodied at the time.
Ever since I moved to SF a year and a half ago, I’ve had 2 threesomes and have made out with a lot of people. Haven’t been to a sex party yet because I’m a bROKE bITCH. I could volunteer though.
I found out about the group from a friends with benny. Word of mouth seems to be the case for me.
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Wow! So much excitement! I’ve actually been interested in degrading. Part of me can kinda see the appeal, being called slut and toy and stuff. But part of me also is a really fragile heart and cry easily, especially when people yell at me so I might not be able to take the harsh words that come with it lol. And yeah I don’t have any word of mouth to go on. Tbh I don’t even know what I would do even if I had it. I haven’t even kissed anyone so I’d probably be very awkward at a party like that. But if it’s more fun people like you I look forward to it 
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Since you mentioned collars, I thought back to the first collar and cuffs I got for my partner! I bought them from Gnat Glitter Kink, which is where we get most of our gear. I remember waiting to find the perfect collar for them, and being so excited when we finally got one. It’s been years but I still can’t help smiling every time I buckle it on them.
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Awww how cute! I can’t imagine how happy you were to see them wear it for the first time. I’ve been told the first time you wear a collar from someone is really important. Not only from the dominant side, but also the trust. I’ve actually wanted to try wearing collars just for fun or fashion. I’m happy you two still have fond memories from a simple collar you picked out.
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@Jason Extremely happy!! 
You should totally try wearing one then, if you’re interested! Collars are fun to shop for. There are so many styles and materials to choose from!
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I’d totally love to go collar shopping! I’m only kinda hesitant to wear one cause it apparently means I’m taken.
Know any good places to shop for one. Ii always thought I’d look cute in one!
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There are lots of reasons to wear a collar, and lots of meanings they can hold! There’s no reason you can’t buy and wear one for yourself. It looks like Spectrum has quite a few to choose from! Do you have any favorite materials or colors?
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Collars can also be really hot outfit accessories! I’m trying to save up for one of Spectrum’s collars! Or maybe all… I like wearing discreet sex toys. I have so many from unboundbabes!
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I’m not sure about material… but I like the colors purple, red, black, blue, rainbow. I’m also open to like bedazzled styles. Also I’d love it it had cute little accessories!
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I’m not familiar with Unboundbabies. What’s are those? Sounds fun!
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A gender neutral sex toy shop! It’s affordable, they have cute products, and with the code ILAH10, you can get a discount when you order. ALSO THEY HAVE A POINTS SYSTEM. whenever you purchase something, you accrue a certain amount of points. You can then use those points to get free stuff. You just have to pay for shipping.
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Oh wow cool! They also have some pretty affordable vibes and lives. If I can get a little personal, A huge fantasy I have is wearing sexy stuff under my clothes and going out to like the mall. Like one of my goal dates when I get a partner is to wear a remote control vibe and have them play with me while we’re out. I’ve actually fantasized about wearing like silky women’s lingerie or a bdsm harness and just walk around. Like walking and seeing how the material shifts and affects me. Something about the idea of bending over to pick up something off a shelf and my shirt rises a little and someone gets a glimpse of the leather straps going up my back really makes me blush lol. I’ll definitely have to look into that
Gnat Glitter Kink makes custom collars in pretty much any color you could want! Not sure if they count as bedazzled, but they are definitely glittery. You could also browse Etsy, there are tons of unique options.
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When I was in high school everyone wore kink collars as necklaces and I only realized it was a sex thing after I graduated and went to a sex shop for the first time lol
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Did you think they knew? Did they think it was just edgy fashion or was your whole school some kinky scholars lol
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Probably not. Most high schoolers nowadays are aware of sex, but statistics show that the average age of sexual activity has increased to 17 years old. I live in California, but there are STILL so many states and religions who are against sex before marriage. Additionally, the youth have much bigger problems that face them, like where to go to college, or in this curreny worldly state, HOW AM I GOING TO ATTEND COLLEGE?
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Until you’re ready to go all out on your fantasy, you can always find a nice collar at any pet store. They come in multiple types of materials for you to determine what you like or feel comfortable with. If you are exceptionally shy you can get a collar at one store, and perhaps a matching leash from another. I had no idea what size collar we needed, so it was a cheap way to see. Let me say, there are plenty of studded leather collars and matching chain leashes. 
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That does sound very affordable. I’m actually getting my first collar and harness set mailed to me! I got it from Unbound and I can’t wait to try it on! The collar even has a little hoop for a leash so I might get one like you said.
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What @MandM said reminded me- you can find pretty cheap dog leashes/collars/connectors/etc made of biothane on Etsy! I actually have a custom biothane dog leash and connector that I use for bdsm play. Biothane is ridiculously strong and comes in every color!
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