Porn is like Hollywood. Some stuff is good, some directors are bad, some are just funny, some are so weird you don’t care, and some are made better by one person then a whole studio.
The point is porn comes in all shapes and sizes and sometimes it has something to take away from it. Porn is definitely not good sexual education but it has like 10% useful information. Many porn sites actually have tutorial videos on how to do some things. So my question is this, was there anything you learned or any questions you got from porn? Did a position make you excited to try it? Did a method of masterbation make you scratch your head? Did something sound fun but you don’t know how safe it is? Or is it as simple as it taught you how to dirty talk?
Share anything you learned or any questions you got from porn in this fun little thread.
I’ll go first. I had found a few videos of women using some type of bdsm numbing cream on men to tease them and while that fascinates my inner sub and masochist, I have concerns about how safe that is and if it’s safe where do I even buy something like that lol.
Also I’m pretty sure more sensual porn taught me how to kiss. I mean I haven’t gotten to kiss anyone so it might have failed but who knows lol
If I understand correctly, you areadking for opinions on porn.
I have never watched any "professionally " made porn that was good enough to do to me what I wanted it to do.
But when I find homemade videos that have people obviously getting really turned on, those are the best.
They even look the best, because they aren’t perfect looking.
The women have a little chubbiness even
I was more going what you leaned from porn or what questions porn gave you. Apparently I was not clear lmao.
Love this topic, thanks Jason!
Porn and fetish videos def. got me intrigued to try Shibari. Still haven’t, one day, but has really taught me more about it and to appreciate the art.
Bad porn taught me what queer sex is not actually like, haha. I’m thinking the girl on girl type of stuff where people are furiously rubbing their dry clits. Ouch! SO glad I found more inclusive porn in my 20s, def. taught me a lot about positive queer sex.
Have you tried stimulating gel or lube before? Numbing stuff can be tricky, depending on what body part you are using it on or with guidance, because you do want to be able to feel pain and listen to your body. But stimulating gel can be fun for a different sensation. I haven’t tried it myself, but Sliquid makes one! Sliquid Organics Stimulating O Gel | Spectrum Boutique
Yay glad you like it and that’s really cool you found something to do. And yeah bad girl on girl always looked uncomfortable lol
Ohhh that looks fun! I’ll have to give it a try some time. Plus numbing cream sounds more fun with a partner and this sounds fun for just solo play
When I was younger (like maybe 8th grade) I looked up porn for the first time out of sheer curiosity just to watch, and I liked it. I spent a lot of time that summer just watching because I had no idea that masturbation was a thing? Seeing women rubbing themselves, I had no idea that sex was something that felt good or what an orgasm was. It also helped me figure out my attraction to women was not just a crush but also sexual.
It led me to a journey of self-discovery both in terms of my sexual orientation and just for sex in general. I remember spending that summer working very hard to make myself have my first orgasm, always wondering if I’d done it yet or just missed it, that is until I had one.
As an adult, porn has clued me into a few things that I now very much enjoy, but I don’t turn to it very often and tend to masturbate without it-- just a preference. I will say I spent many years perhaps a little too concerned over whether or not I was supposed to moan which makes me chuckle now.
I’m so glad you were able to go on that journey! I actually realized I was bisexual because for fun I downloaded Mystic Messenger and got really happy when the guys flirted with me lol. That’s how I started to question my sexuality. Gay porn shortly followed lol