So, I am a virgin who grew up in a Christian environment that told us that masturbation is bad and wait till marriage for sex. I am no longer following any religions and (i disagree with mostly everything they taught me, and I personally do not believe in god). So I want to masturbate with penetration but I have not had sex with anyone yet. I am really confused about losing virginity and how to define it. Will I lose my virginity with a toy or with a person. I am Bisexual and I’ve heard so much that you can only lose your virginity to penetration with a penis. I really want to disagree with this but I don’t know what it means to lose ones virginity. I want to masturbate but I don’t want the shame of thinking I am no longer a virgin and lost it to myself, I want to lose it to a person but I want to masturbate with penetration.
Personally, as another bisexual, I don’t think toys can take your virginity. Also virginity does not end only with penetration. However the whole idea of virginity is different for a lot of people and it’s pretty up to you. In my mind there are three 3 virginity. There’s toy virginity which isn’t as important but it’s fun say the first time you use a vibrator or a dildo etc. then there’s your straight or gay virginity. Something along the lines of if you get penetrated or have gay sex those count as different virginity’s. If it helps I think that there are many times you lose your virginity in a way, first kiss and such. But I feel the true moment you lose your like actual full on virginity is when you have sex with another person you care about. But no virginity does not just mean penetration. It is most sex acts with any gender with another person of any gender. So basically no I don’t think toys will take your virginity. In fact many people use stuff like dildos and butt plugs to prep or help you train for real sex. I think your good to go crazy in the bed alone and you’ll be fine.
If you are wondering if you’ll brake your hymen with a dildo I believe you can.
But that can happen without penetration, I broke mine playing basketball in 8th grade. I was body checked and hit the ground very hard when I got up I discovered that I was bleeding.
this helped so much thank you 
Echoing what Peggy said, your hymen being intact has nothing really to do with virginity, trauma in that area (I fell off a bike and broke mine) even minor trauma can affect that.
Personally I believe virginity is just a construct and usually used negatively to make people feel shame about their bodies and sex. And as a queer person who grew up with some religious family, there are flaws in the logic of what virginity is (or what I was told) given the fact that it doesn’t usually include sex outside of the traditional male and female setting.
I don’t consider it losing your virginity with a toy. But I would maybe use this as a chance to consider what exactly virginity means to you, because as Jason said it can mean something different to a lot of people. And also look at if that label really matters to you. To me, at the end of the day I don’t think anyone should feel shame about their body, so I would urge someone to not put too much pressure on themselves about a label like virginity.