Yes dildos that cum and and butt plugs and vibes are fun and a great way to find pleasure either alone or with a partner. But few things are as sensual and beautiful as a classic for any gender or person. Strip down to what your comfortable with, maybe light some candles, put on some music or porn, grab a pillow and maybe some lube and maybe a mirror for a self confidence boost and just relax. Few things are as sensual and sexy as just using your weight and the pillow to get off. You can hump it, fuck it or grind it! It’s a fun sex toy that’s for everyone. As you grind and slowly get heavier and deeper breaths, as your heart starts beating faster. Your brain filled with blissful ideas as your pelvis rocks back and forth trying to find that perfect rhythm. You can be on your knees or standing at the bedside. You feel your body relax as your once steady posture and constant pace quickly fall to you on your hands and knees and each thrust or motion becomes sloppy. You can either go slow and feel the climax build, or you can speed up and chase your own joy. It’s a perfect time to let go and see what dirty things fall from your mouth as the pleasure builds. Maybe you put a vibe under the pillow case or maybe you got that vibe meant for grinding? Maybe you stay straight up or maybe your on your chest and your ass is in the air. It’s a wonderful way to really earn that finish. And it’s great for partners! Imagine slowly grinding as your partner kisses you and feels you up. Maybe your partner is on the pillow and they stick their ass in the air to tease or invite you. Maybe it’s a game to see who can grind the longest before caving and beg for the others touch? The point is, when your vibe isn’t charged or you just want a little fun and comfort, don’t forget a pillow isn’t just for dreaming. 
Great reminder! Additionally, masturbation and sex don’t have to end in orgasm! You can enjoy sensations and take time to pleasure yourself without climaxing, getting messy, being naked, whatever. You can slow down and define pleasure for yourself!
I just watched this new Sexplanations video and felt that it would fit in this conversation here. I really enjoyed it. It’s nice to hear about diverse experiences of sexual pleasure.
This is fascinating! I vaguely think people at my old middle school would do this lol. But this is cool and it’s always fun to see how people find pleasure.
I had known about thigh riding and look forward to it. And yeah It’s fun to just relax and enjoy the pleasure and not always rush to orgasm.
“You can slow down and define pleasure for yourself!”
Omg I love that! It’s so common to get in the rut of thinking you have to have an end game or orgasm when it comes to pleasure, so nice reminder it doesn’t have to be like that!
Also this reminds me of one of the first videos I saw of Zoe’s when she had the Sex Stuff series that made me really think about pleasure in a different way: her bondage video with Midori, who I have adored for years!
It’s such a powerful video if you haven’t seen it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bssbjoBCCNA
Oh wow, that video was absolutely enchanting. I found Midori just a few months ago and she’s already become such a role model for me. 
@Jason if you haven’t watched this video yet, you gotta check it out!
I did watch the video and it’s really helpful and I love the playful vibe the video has. Like it’s not serious it’s just someone trying something new
Same! She is such an incredible force within the community, and just really rad in general. I’d love to take a class with her someday. I just adore her energy and how she connects with partners during sessions.
Yes! I love that they are just trusting friends and how intimate and safe it is, but not even in a sexual way. Just the level of trust and vulnerability displayed is so positive and powerful.