For awhile I’ve felt that I fit into both boy and girl but also felt like neither. But ive judged these thoughts away and feel not “queer enough” to explore gender. @lucid_dreaming talked about this topic but i was wondering on how to explore genders and get over that feeling of “not enough”. How do I teach myself to accept my feelings and not judge them away?
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Actually, what you just said about feeling like a boy/girl but also neither is exactly like how I have been feeling lately. Sometimes I feel like a “girl,” sometimes I feel like a “boy,” and sometimes I feel like I don’t fit into either of those categories. Something that has helped me personally, and this might sound counterintuitive, is not giving a f*ck about labels. I do not partake in any other label beside “queer” because it encompasses a wide range of different identities. The reason why I even made the post about questioning my identity whilst mentioning shame and guilt is because I was getting very caught up in trying to label myself. Whenever I dropped the labeling and just found things and uncovered things that I loved without feeling like I had to or should to fit into a certain identity, I felt much more at ease with myself as just a human being. We are all humans, just doing the best we can and finding joy in this life in the best ways we know how. For me, to just claim my queerness as a human being is empowering and I don’t feel the need to put myself into a box that doesn’t fit. I hope at least some of what I wrote resonates with you, Emma 
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this seriously helps so much thank u 
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This is 100% why I just identify as queer, it made it a lot easier for me to explore my feelings about both my own relationship to my gender and also the sexual attraction I have to other humans. A good all in one solution for me personally.
For someone with anxiety like myself, I always got overwhelmed with it all and that kept me from really diving in and learning about myself, so just claiming my queerness opened that door to give myself permission to even explore who I am.
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Unfortunately western society tends to view many things as a dichotomy, so most of us grow up with certain notions being taught to us as one thing being divided into separate parts. It’s not easy shaking off years of conditioning that can limit your perspective. Like gender for instance being reduced to a binary, leaving no space for the rest of us that don’t exactly fall into it. For those of us that don’t align with this social “norm” we have to figure out where we stand for ourselves. Your journey is different from mine, and my path is different from my partner’s. Sometimes you just have to try-on various “labels” to see if they stick, if they don’t feel useful to you then drop em. I’ve personally been doing this for years, without anyone really knowing, and it has helped me discover not what I am to other people but who I am to myself. At the end of the day, you aren’t a set of terms that can be found in a dictionary. You are a living person, plain and simple.
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Bigender people exist and queerness is not a competition 
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