# Using pleasure to destress **URL:** \ **Category:** Uncategorized\ **Created:** [September 25, 2020, 4:16am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326 "2020-09-25T04:16:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Jason](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/jason/32/259_2.png) [@Jason](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/Jason)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2020, 4:16am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326/1 "2020-09-25T04:16:57Z")
So today has been a rollercoaster. I have been feeling so horny and alone and I nearly cried while standing in the rain and I’ve just been yelled at all night thanks to my control freak family reacting to a slug infestation, and they think yelling in my ear will help. I know sex and orgasms help with an emotional reset but I want to calm down before I cum. Any advice for a nice self date? ---
**Author:** ![LisaW](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/lisaw/32/33_2.png) [@LisaW](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/LisaW)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2020, 1:31pm UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326/2 "2020-10-01T13:31:53Z")
Hey Jason! I hope you’re week is going better. I’ve had a really stressful last week and been struggling and I know how much it sucks. Crying standing in the rain actually sounds about lovely after my week, heh. For me, lighting a bunch of candles, being in the dark, wrapping myself up in warm things (I have a really soft blanket that I like to burrito myself in) and watching something that is comforting and familiar is how I unwind. I also unplug, I’ve been doing a lot of Instagram doom scrolling, so I’ve been trying to read instead. Just surrounding myself with things I find comforting, soft things and soft light, is the best way I unwind. Also while stuck at home I’ve been getting myself little treats to have as a date when they arrive. I’ve joined a few snack subscription boxes, which I thought sounded kinda lame at first but I really look forward to them arriving and taste testing all the snacks (I do a box that delivers snacks from a different country every month). Just little things of joy that I gift to my future self. Nothing fancy, but it really perks my day up. ---
**Author:** ![Jason](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/jason/32/259_2.png) [@Jason](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/Jason)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2020, 2:36pm UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326/3 "2020-10-01T14:36:07Z")
Candles are so nice. Also I love being in the dark but I prefer the cold honestly. But those little treats do sound nice. And my week has gotten a lot better thanks. And sorry it sounds like your week hasn’t been going so well. Yeah crying in the rain does feel pretty nice honestly. ---
**Author:** ![LisaW](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/lisaw/32/33_2.png) [@LisaW](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/LisaW)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2020, 9:06pm UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326/4 "2020-10-05T21:06:25Z")
Off to a much better week over here. And same, I love having dim light at all times, although the few poor plants I have are not a fan, ha. But it’s finally getting into chilly fall weather in the midwest so my favorite season is here, just when I needed some extra comfort! ---
**Author:** ![Jason](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/jason/32/259_2.png) [@Jason](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/Jason)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2020, 2:44am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326/5 "2020-10-06T02:44:48Z")
Yes! Fall and winter are my favorite seasons of not the most… well nerve racking. Every season I dread falling back into a spiral I hit a couple years back. It sucks cause the cold and dark is my favorite. If I’m being honest fall and winter settings alway make me the most horny. Something about seeing a lovers breath and the only heat being each other. Plus just how sensitive my body gets when I’m cold. My love for the cold always made like vampires or Killerfrost/Mr Freeze my favorite like fantasies. But anyway I’m glad your week is better then the last. ---
**Author:** ![LisaW](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/lisaw/32/33_2.png) [@LisaW](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/LisaW)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2020, 10:54am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326/6 "2020-10-07T10:54:14Z")
Totally get that about the cold weather. I’m a winter baby (birthday is in December) so I always joke I was made for the cold, ha. ---
**Author:** ![Bigwhip2u](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Bigwhip2u](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/Bigwhip2u)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2020, 10:30pm UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/using-pleasure-to-destress/1326/7 "2020-10-14T22:30:17Z")
Pud pulling always reduces my anxiety for sure…so yes I do pleasure myself quite a lot.