# Looking for advice from other trans tops **URL:** \ **Category:** Uncategorized\ **Created:** [December 29, 2020, 2:49am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908 "2020-12-29T02:49:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![stagbeetlez](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/stagbeetlez/32/673_2.png) [@stagbeetlez](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/stagbeetlez)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2020, 2:49am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908/1 "2020-12-29T02:49:11Z")
HOW DO YOU CUM. I’m a trans top with vaginismus and I’m Super unsensitive. Penetration is an absolute no for me. For the most part when I fuck my bf I don’t cum. I can sometimes when I use a strap but not usually. It’s a simple little nylon strap that you can’t really put a vibe in. He also sucks my dick/eats me out which usually does get me there but we don’t do it a lot and it gets boring for me lol. So does anyone have any advice, tips, scenarios, etc. I know experimentation is important but I have no idea WHAT to experiment with. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![lucid\_dreaming](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/lucid_dreaming/32/785_2.png) [@lucid\_dreaming](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/lucid_dreaming)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2020, 3:27am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908/2 "2020-12-29T03:27:25Z")
Have you ever considered anal play? Butt plugs? Rimming? If you don’t want direct ass to mouth contact you can cut a condom and use it as a dental dam. How about incorporating nipple play? Using clamps or nipple suckers are good beginner options if you are into stuff like that. Role-playing, such as medical play using lube and gloves might be of interest to you. Its all about what you are willing to try 🙂 best wishes to you! ---
**Author:** ![lucid\_dreaming](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/lucid_dreaming/32/785_2.png) [@lucid\_dreaming](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/lucid_dreaming)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2020, 3:35am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908/3 "2020-12-29T03:35:38Z")
Oh, I am not a trans top. Sorry! I hope my advice still benefits you 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![stagbeetlez](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/stagbeetlez/32/673_2.png) [@stagbeetlez](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/stagbeetlez)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2021, 5:43am UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908/4 "2021-01-02T05:43:22Z")
Yeah i pretty much have no sensation in my nips lol it can be pretty frustrating. Basically I think I’m looking for something I can do while moving/ talking/ fucking cuz I get bored easy haha. ---
**Author:** ![ariiiiima](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/ariiiiima/32/691_2.png) [@ariiiiima](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/ariiiiima)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2021, 6:40pm UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908/5 "2021-01-06T18:40:26Z")
I’ve experimented with sensory play and pressure play and liked it a lot and can cum from that alone but everyone’s arousal and body is different. Crashpadseries is a queer porn site that helped me a lot with learning what’s possible in queer &trans sex. They have a variety of videos showcasing all kinds of creative ways people fuck. Was definitely a game changer for me. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![stagbeetlez](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/stagbeetlez/32/673_2.png) [@stagbeetlez](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/stagbeetlez)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2021, 9:06pm UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908/6 "2021-01-06T21:06:29Z")
yessss thank you so much ---
**Author:** ![LisaW](https://yyz1.discourse-cdn.com/flex029/user_avatar/forum.spectrumboutique.com/lisaw/32/33_2.png) [@LisaW](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/u/LisaW)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2021, 4:30pm UTC](https://forum.spectrumboutique.com/t/looking-for-advice-from-other-trans-tops/1908/7 "2021-01-09T16:30:53Z")
Crashpad is THE BEST. It’s so validating and hot to see so many body types (I’m fat and it’s so hard to find porn that isn’t fetishizing my body type in a way that isn’t healthy personally for me) and showcasing just the wide variety of sex people can have, which is so lacking in most porn. I love shouting about them from the rooftops, the best.